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How to Increase attractiveness and self-confidence?

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 This is how attractiveness works immediately!

Everyone knows certain people who look gorgeous with little effort and also have that certain attraction. But what exactly is behind it? Science is also concerned with this topic: What do we find attractive? How does attractiveness influence our choice of partner and which factors have the greatest influence on our own attraction?

We have summarized the most important answers to these questions and tips on how to work quickly on your own attractiveness here for you.

Attractiveness determines your success

And that doesn't just mean the apparent attractiveness that you see directly when you look at someone. Other factors also play an important role. Looking good is not enough. And tastes are known to be different. However, we determine in a fraction of a second whether we find someone attractive or not. Increase your own attractiveness with a few tricks and get across to other people optimally. We'll show you how!

The positive charisma

A nice, honest smile is the best business card. Have you ever noticed how many people look sad and run around with the corners of their mouths drooping? Sure, you may not always have something to laugh about, but you should always encourage yourself to get the best out of everything. It is not reprehensible to have a good day and to show it to everyone by laughing! Do not join the general public! Be happy and show it to the outside world; that increases your overall attractiveness.

Move confidently

Be at peace and in harmony with yourself and your body. Work on it if necessary. The more comfortable you feel, the more self-confidence you exude and that automatically increases your attractiveness. Always make sure that you are standing straight and upright, that you do not bury your hands in your trouser pockets, that you do not cling to your handbag or anything else, and that your posture appears open to others.

Increase attractiveness through general education

There is probably nothing as embarrassing as not being able to have a say in a conversation about current topics. It feels good to have a look at the headlines at least regularly and to find out about current events. When a certain event is coming up, you should get more detailed information about the connections, you don't want to stick snacks in your mouth all evening in order not to have to talk.

Be visible!

Those who hide at home do not really make a positive impression. If you have a goal, if you want to convince a certain person of yourself through your attractiveness, for example, you also have to be visible to them. Stay in places where you often meet people you want to be attractive to. Motivate yourself again and again and never rest on past successes. It's nice if you have already proven your attractiveness and have had success! Pick up on that and keep going!

This is how you boost your self-confidence

Your assessment of yourself is similar to how you perceive yourself. There is your own assessment and that of the outside world. Both are closely interwoven. You first develop an assessment of yourself and check it out by comparing it with the opinions of others.

But we often misjudge ourselves. This leads to the fact that we either do not stand by what we can really do - or we approach a challenge too confidently and then realize that we are not up to it after all.

You can develop a realistic self-assessment by starting exactly where it goes wrong. Underestimation happens because you have been persuaded from the outside that you cannot do it. At some point, you will believe it yourself. But what would it be like if you did not give these inner voices power? Overestimation, on the other hand, arises for the same reason, but here you are trying to counteract these inner voices with an overly positive image. Here, too, you are ignoring what others have told you and trying to come up with a realistic assessment.

Promote self-confidence and self-respect

Imagine a situation in your life that is currently not suitable for you. That can be your job, but also your relationship with another person. Now imagine if your best friend, your own child, or your partner were in exactly this situation. What would you advise them?

Is this advice to your best friend about what you do yourself?

In the vast majority of cases, it is not.

We are much harder with ourselves than with any other person and at the same time, we live so little self-respect in everyday life. You are the most important resource you have - and the only one you can really influence. You are your greatest asset. Treat yourself like a manufacturing company would treat its most important machine.

Confidence is confidence in your own abilities. So the best way to work on it is by building a solid foundation of skills that you can trust with confidence. At the same time, draw your attention to the fact that your skills and their improvement will bring you better and better results. Confidence also relies a lot on what you put your focus on.

It is more difficult with self-esteem. This is deeply rooted in you and if something happened to you in the past that attacked it, it will have a long-lasting effect. Even so, it is not impossible to regain healthy self-esteem. The work begins in small steps. Ask yourself, “If my best friend were in this situation, would I want him to be treated like this? What would I advise him instead? ”We give important people's advice full of self-respect. Learn to apply your good advice to yourself too. Small steps are not only an easy way to start your journey to healthy self-esteem, but they are most effective over time.

Strengthen key competencies of the future - this will make you even more attractive for the job market of the future

What are companies looking for in the labour market of the future? How can you strengthen your profile and become even more attractive for your employer? Stand out from the crowd by gaining the soft skills that the labour market of the future will demand most. In other words, skills that help you to interact successfully with others, implement ideas and deal with change - these include creativity, persuasiveness, adaptability, teamwork, and emotional intelligence.

  • Strengthen your profile and make yourself even more attractive for the job market of the future.
  • Increase your creativity and your powers of persuasion.
  • Think critically, communicate effectively and work successfully in a team.
  • Improve your time and self-management and appear even more confident.

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